Tuesday 26 April 2016

I made Pictionary

Yes I made a home-made version of Pictionary.

As I was typing, printing, laminating, cutting & sorting over 2 hours I had a lot of time to think.

Yes I was happy to do the work, it was for me, my husband & children to be able to spend some time together. Bonding time.

A mother is happy to put in the hard yards most the time because we love our family and we feel its our job. I seem to pick to do thing even when I know its more work even when I know there is an easier way I still choose to do it and that is the point I need to remember, as im sitting there cutting away........ I choose to do this no one made me.

 That step is a good one not to skip because when you go to play the game or go to show your family your hard work and they don't pay you the attention or give you the feedback you wanted you should remember You choose to do it .

This does not mean they should not be polite, thankful for your effort but sometimes our loved ones just don't GET IT .

We sit there all upset wondering why the hell we did this wonderful hard work for our family only to have them not reward you for it with kind words or a thank you. Yes its true we all need to be nicer sometimes thinking of others & the work that they do for us but we also should be responsible for our own happiness.

If you take something on, then you take on the responsibility right? that's what you tell your kids isn't it?

well what do you tell them when they do a good job or help someone, even try to help and it doesn't turn out well? You tell them its ok, they know they done well so that's what's important, that they are wonderful just for doing it, that is doesn't matter if people don't act gracious because you know you done good.

So why don't we as mothers take our own advice? why do we get upset when we don't get a thank you? Ok well apart from it feeling like it happens hundreds of times a day sometimes which I feel like many time each year depending what stage our children, marriage or work is in.

Yes us mum's run around caring for everyone & goodness knows we do deserve a thank you I'm NOT saying that.

We are under appreciated a lot by our families because 'mum will do it' thinking takes over their brains.

Ok my point is Make yourself happy every now & then. Don't do the hard yards burning yourself out.

Us women will just keep going and going because we are MUM'S.

Take care of yourself. Do something that you want to do.

Big or small it doesn't matter. Something to reward yourself for all the labour of love you do each and every day.

P.S  after I had make the cards for Pictionary, cleaned up the house, made lunch for kids & husband, finished typing this I went down the street brought myself a yummy coffee & parked for 10mins near the park enjoying. Now that's what I'm talking about lol

 

 




Saturday 23 April 2016

Lets get serious for a minute (A minute i promise) Do You Have Kids? Being a parent in this device filled world means its your job to know about technology & keep them safe until they are grown ups because after all we are 'raising them'

  RAISING by definition is lift or move to a higher position or level to increase the amount, level, or strength of . To do this you have to watch over them, guide them, protect them & teach them.

My teenager has an iphone. We paid for it, we pay her money if she has done well & helped out her family in some way so she can get credit, she lives under our roof and we have full access to her phone. This is the way I believe it should be, of course just because I can go looking at all her message's on facebook does not mean I do. The knowing I can is what helps her feel watched over & cared about also we have rules set in place about being online she has to stick to them.
And yes if I think something is up I will go read her stuff but if I don't need to talk to her about it I won't, I mean really I don't need to get in the middle of her & jane talking about how billy said this thing & that thing about another girl  - I'd rather keep out of that thank you lol

       IPAD/IPHONE/ ANDROID ~~~~~ Mr J.Canon a social media expert warns that these apps can expose teenagers to a global playground for criminals.

“The internet is a pedophile’s paradise, whether people want to acknowledge that or not,” said Canon.
Snapchat, an instant photo sharing app where the image “erases” after a certain number of seconds, requires a minimum age of 13 – however, users can easily enter a fictitious birthdate.

Next on the list is Tinder, an online dating app where users swipe “yes” or “no” on photos of strangers and chat with them.

'Ask FM 'rounds out Canon’s top three. It's an anonymous question and answer site that is notorious for cyber bullying.

Yik Yak – This App is one of the most dangerous. It allows users to post text-only “Yaks,” or messages, of up to 200 characters. The messages have no filter and can be viewed by the 500 Yakkers who are closest to the person who wrote the Yak, as determined by GPS tracking.

Kik Messenger – This is a private messenger app and is coveted by those under 18 for a number of reasons. The App allows kids to send private messages that their parents can’t see. This app also allows users to identify themselves by a made up username, posing the dangers of anonymity. To make matters even scarier, third party websites allow users to search for people based on things like age and gender. There is very little you can do to verify the identity of someone on Kik, which obviously poses the risk of sexual predators chatting with your child. And again, this is an easy tool for sexting.

Officer Chuck Collier of the Dublin Police Department agrees that these apps create chaos.
“We call it keyboard courage,” Collier said. “If I’m not talking to you face-to-face, I say a lot meaner things."
Collier also points out that anonymity can play a troublesome role as well. Video chat Omegle is another app that could lead to trouble. Collier points out that its claims of anonymity are a problem.
“You don’t know who you’re talking to. It could be somebody down the street, or it could be a 50-year-old pedophile in Arizona,” Collier said.
Please learn more about what your child has on their devices
Just google best safe apps for children there is so much you can learn and once you think you know everything it will all update and have changed ...... so go do it again

Teenagers and risk taking

Do you remember sneaking off when your parents didnt want you to go out with a friend? Do you remeber jumping that wild river bed with your friends praying you didnt fall in & break a leg?
Then you know how teenagers serach for their identities through the process of risk-taking. And her is my thought on it all.........
We know changes to the limbic system of the brain cause teens to seek risk, challenge, and emotional stimulation. While some parents fear this phase of a ch...
ild’s life, it’s really quite natural. And it’s a time to be embraced as a positive transition to adulthood. But yes it will drive you insane as a parent ,looking into it more i was reading this thing about not stopping it or controling it but families that are involed in activitves that stimulate that part of the childerns brain to help with later older teenager behaviours like getting drunking , partying, smoking, and sexual experimentation.
This risk-taking can is equally associated with positive activities, like mountain climbing,Hard bush walking, camping or other outdoor things the teenager has not done often in their live up til now, community service, politics, faith groups, and other experiences that can push young people out of their comfort zones and reward them handsomely.

 

When young people learn to overcome challenges and meet risk head on, they learn to be resilient. They can learn that exploration beyond their comfort zones often leads to unexpected rewards like Happiness, life purpose, and well-being. They develop courage, curiosity, self-confidence, and persistence.


 I callage you to reshape the idea that teen risk-taking is always negative, to get out there & help your teen or even tween to start LIVING.
Who better to travel this with them then you? well for now anyway until they tell you to walk behind them or drop them off at the corner before their friends see you but by then your work with this above will hopefully be mostly done & you can move onto the next teenager stage smile emoticon Good luck & just breath.